Co-parenting after separation · Australia

Every word
on the record.

Q: Can I just use SMS or screenshots instead?

You can. But SMS and screenshots can be edited, deleted, or denied — and Family Court is increasingly sceptical of both. Hash-chained messages with timestamped read receipts produce a record that survives challenge. The whole product exists because screenshots don't.

Q: What if I lose my phone?

Magic links go to your email. As long as you can read email on any device, you can sign in. No password to remember, no account to recover. Passkeys (Face ID, Touch ID) are optional once you're in.

When you've separated and you still have to talk — pickups, school fees, weekends, the texts that turn into a fight — every word matters. It's In Writing keeps the record permanent, timestamped, and impossible to deny. A quarter the price of Our Family Wizard.

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5 free messages. No card. No password. A$4.99/month or A$39.95/year when you're ready.

Maya Orellana

School fees · Tuesday 10:47 AM

Term 2 invoice came through — $1,847. Can you cover half by the 15th?

hash 7f3a…b21c✓✓ Read 10:49

Yes. Will transfer $923.50 by Friday.

hash 9c2d…e5a3✓✓ Read 11:02

Three things.
Nothing else.

The whole point is the record. Everything that isn't the record is something between you and it. We are ruthless about keeping it to three.

I. Send

Write it down.

Plain, clear messages, organised by subject. No calendars, expense trackers, tone meters, journals, or file vaults. Nothing between you and what you need to say.

Subject

School pickup

Wednesday I'll do pickup at 4pm. You're on Friday this week as agreed.

Indexed by subject. Hash-chained on send. Send

II. Track

Know it was read.

The moment your message is opened, you see it. An immutable timestamp. A receipt that can't be faked, denied, or taken back. No more wondering whether they saw it.

SentTue 10:47:13 AEST

DeliveredTue 10:47:14 AEST

ReadTue 10:49:22 AEST

III. Prove

Keep it, always.

Every message is cryptographically chained to the one before it. Tamper with anything and the chain breaks from that point forward. The database itself can't update or delete a message — the permission to do so simply doesn't exist at the role level.

And shipping in the Court tier: the Verifier — an open-source tool anyone can run on your exported file to confirm it's intact. Not a marketing claim. Maths.

a3f7…81bcMessage 1

c2d4…9f12Message 2

e8a1…4b53Message 3

9c5f…d760Message 4

A deliberate refusal

We don't build calendars.
We don't build expense trackers.
We don't police your tone.

Every feature that isn't the record is another feature getting between you and the record. We're ruthless about keeping it to three. That's the whole point.

Our Family Wizard ships forty features. Users open three. We ship the three.

You already know what you need. It's the same thing every separated parent needs: a place where nothing said can be taken back. That's the whole product.

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Compared to Our Family Wizard

Same evidentiary outcome.
A fraction of the price.

Our Family Wizard is the incumbent. It's also American, expensive, feature-bloated, and rated below two stars on every independent review platform we could find. The numbers below are public, current as of April 2026, and link to their source.

	Our Family Wizard Premium	It's In Writing On the Record
Annual cost · per parent	A$299.99	A$39.95/year (or A$4.99/month)
Two-parent family · per year	A$599.98	A$79.90/year
Five-year cost · couple	A$3,000	A$400 save A$2,600
One parent covers both?	No — each parent pays separately	Yes — A$79.90/year for both
Built in	United States	Brisbane, Australia
Hosted in	United States	Sydney, Australia
Open-source verifier	No	The Verifier shipping in Court tier
Trustpilot score	1.4 / 5 ↗	No public reviews yet — we just launched
Voice & tone	Court-procedural, feature-heavy	Plain English, calm, prose
Feature count	~40	3

OFW also sells Essentials at A$199.99/parent/yr and Max at A$399.99/parent/yr. We picked Premium for the comparison because it's their middle plan and the one most parents we spoke to actually paid for. Independent review scores: Trustpilot 1.4/5, SiteJabber 1.3/5, Google Play 2.1/5.

Pricing

A fraction
of the price.

Our Family Wizard charges A$199.99 to A$399.99 per parent, per year. We charge A$4.99/month, or A$39.95/year — your call. Or cover both accounts for A$79.90/year. Over five years, that's A$2,600 each parent keeps in their own pocket.

Same provable record. None of the features you'd never open anyway.

On the Record

A$4.99 / month

— or —

Best value A$39.95 / year

save A$19

Cover both accounts A$79.90/year or A$9.98/month Pay once, cover you and your co-parent.

Unlimited messages
Subject-threaded conversations
Read receipts with timestamps
PDF export, any time
Attachments up to 25 MB per message
My Brain — private scratch notes, only you can see them, never part of the record

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Court

Coming Soon

When the record needs to leave the app.

A court-ready workspace for the moments where messages become evidence, lawyers need a clean view, and every export has to be easy to verify.

Everything in On the Record Unlimited messages, permanent history, PDF export, attachments, and My Brain.

✓

Independent verification The Verifier will let anyone confirm an export has not been altered.

Practitioner access Read-only review for lawyers, mediators, and trusted support people.

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Bigger evidence files Higher attachment limits for statements, screenshots, school records, and PDFs.

Ben Slater · Brisbane

Why I built this

A real human, who's been through it.

I went through a divorce. My solicitor recommended Our Family Wizard, and I paid for it. It was expensive, outdated, and built like it didn't care whether I, the user, lived or died. But it served a purpose, and that purpose was very important. Every notification I missed could have dramatically altered the outcome of my separation.

So I built the version I wished had existed. Plain English. Australian. A quarter of the price. The three things I actually used, and nothing else.

— Ben

Common questions

Things worth knowing first.

What if my co-parent won't sign up?

They don't need to install anything — they open one email and click one link. We don't chase, nudge, or send follow-ups on your behalf.

If they don't accept, your draft record is still kept. When they do join, both of you are on the same immutable conversation.

Can I just use SMS or screenshots instead?

You can. But SMS messages can be deleted, edited, or denied, and screenshots can be faked or selectively cropped. Family Court is increasingly sceptical of both.

Hash-chained messages with timestamped read receipts produce a record that survives challenge. The whole product exists because screenshots don't.

Is this admissible as evidence in Australian Family Court?

We can't speak for any specific case or judge. What we can say: the export is a chronological PDF with sender, timestamp, message body, and a SHA-256 hash chain — designed to be presented the same way printed emails or letters are presented.

We're not lawyers. Ask yours.

Who can read my messages?

Only you and the person you're messaging. We don't read them. There are no ads on the platform, so no ad-network data sharing.

The Australian Privacy Principles set the floor. Messages are stored encrypted, and the database role the app runs as can only insert and read — it physically can't update or delete a message.

How long does setup take?

Under a minute. Enter your email, click the link we send you, set a display name, invite the other parent by their email.

The first five messages are free. You only pay when you want to send more.

Do I need to install an app?

No. It runs in any browser — phone, tablet, or desktop. A native iOS and Android app is in development, but it's never required.

What if I lose my phone?

Sign-in links go to your email. As long as you can read email on any device, you can sign in. No password to remember. No account to recover.

Passkeys (Face ID, Touch ID, device PIN) are optional once you're in — they make sign-in faster on devices you trust.

What happens to my record if I cancel?

Your record stays. Cancelling stops new outbound messages, but the past stays exportable and viewable.

We don't delete history. The record is yours.

Still wondering something? Email hello@itsinwriting.com.au — a person reads it.

Every word
on the record.

Accountability for
what's said. And therefore
what's done.

Built in Australia,
for Australian co-parents.

Three things.
Nothing else.

Write it down.

Know it was read.

Keep it, always.

Ready to put it in writing?

We don't build calendars.
We don't build expense trackers.
We don't police your tone.

Same evidentiary outcome.
A fraction of the price.

A fraction
of the price.

When the record needs to leave the app.

A real human, who's been through it.

Things worth knowing first.

Put it in writing.
Keep it in writing.

Every wordon the record.

Accountability forwhat's said. And thereforewhat's done.

Built in Australia,for Australian co-parents.

Three things.Nothing else.

Write it down.

Know it was read.

Keep it, always.

Ready to put it in writing?

We don't build calendars.We don't build expense trackers.We don't police your tone.

Same evidentiary outcome.A fraction of the price.

A fractionof the price.

When the record needs to leave the app.

A real human, who's been through it.

Things worth knowing first.

Put it in writing.Keep it in writing.

Every word
on the record.

Accountability for
what's said. And therefore
what's done.

Built in Australia,
for Australian co-parents.

Three things.
Nothing else.

We don't build calendars.
We don't build expense trackers.
We don't police your tone.

Same evidentiary outcome.
A fraction of the price.

A fraction
of the price.

Put it in writing.
Keep it in writing.